I read an article recently that I thought is of relevance to all parents. Bringing up teenage boys today is a tough job and not for the feint-hearted. Any tools that can assist you in this difficult period in their lives must be utilised. We as a school do as much as we can in the time that is available, but it is necessary to have a combined partnership that is evident to your sons. Ultimately we are all striving for the same outcome : to see your son being the best that he can possibly be and to ensure that he comes to no harm in the process of achieving his goals.
“When you see signs of adolescence in your child, it’s time to talk with them. As the parent of a preteen, your task is similar to that of a sports coach who’s trained his team all through the late summer and early autumn. Now the first match is about to occur, when direct coaching is not going to be possible. So the coach gathers the players in the changeroom and makes one last speech before they take the field. He reminds them again of the fundamentals of the game, and gives them the old pep talk about winning.
Similarly, as the parent of a preteen you’ve been teaching them through preschool and primary years about right and wrong, what to believe, and how to behave. Now the big contest called ‘adolescence’ is about to begin and your team will take the field. From that point forward, very little parental advice can be given.
A Christian psychologist recommends that parents take an eleven- or twelve-year-old child on a ‘preparing for adolescence’ trip, during which moral values and family principles are repeated and emphasised: sex education and the physical changes of adolescence, the approaching social pressures, and other fundamentals that should be discussed.
When you’ve done this, you’ve two things left to do:
- Assure them you love them and will always be there for them, and that will never change.
- Pray for them every day. And don’t just pray, have confidence in the power of your prayers: “
If you have not had the opportunity to do so to have the chat with your son, it is not too late to do so.
Please continue to work with us in supporting your sons through adolescence. If you have any concerns please do not hesitate to contact us.